The Caretaker
This is some GOOD stuff.... for anyone who identifies with The Caretaker archetype....
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Self-Care Isn't Just About You – A Message for Teachers, Coaches, & Parents
Posted: March 13, 2013 @ 11:07 AM | By: Jennifer Louden
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Leadership & Self-Development
Whether you're a teacher, coach or parent, when you want to help others change– it’s oh so tempting to believe that means giving your all, 110% of the time. That it means being on call no matter what. Going the extra mile. Being invested in the outcome.
And sometimes it does. Short bursts of all-out giving as a teacher, coach, and especially parent, comes with the territory. But if you do it for extended stretches or you believe you must do it to be “good,” or to be worth what you charge, you’re setting yourself up for a big ole train wreck of burnout and soul-sucking resentment.
Self-care gets a lot of lip service in our self-help world, and in the domains of parenting, coaching and teaching, but self-care is not just about you – it’s about the people you love and serve. When you exhaust yourself serving them, or tie your self-worth to serving in a “perfect” and unsustainable way, you send a message, “You can’t do this alone. You need me.” It destroys the very value you are striving to deliver.
This leads to tangled relationships and to everybody feeling like a failure.
Self-care in service means trusting the person you serve to learn, in their own time, in their own way. And it means trusting that what you have given is enough.
Question for You: In what teaching relationship is it time for you to practice self-care and step back? What would that look like – today?
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In the end we all try to do our best. Hopefully part of your best is showing compassion to self as well as others.... on all levels.
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Link to this snippet
Self-Care Isn't Just About You – A Message for Teachers, Coaches, & Parents
Posted: March 13, 2013 @ 11:07 AM | By: Jennifer Louden
Categories:
Leadership & Self-Development
Whether you're a teacher, coach or parent, when you want to help others change– it’s oh so tempting to believe that means giving your all, 110% of the time. That it means being on call no matter what. Going the extra mile. Being invested in the outcome.
And sometimes it does. Short bursts of all-out giving as a teacher, coach, and especially parent, comes with the territory. But if you do it for extended stretches or you believe you must do it to be “good,” or to be worth what you charge, you’re setting yourself up for a big ole train wreck of burnout and soul-sucking resentment.
Self-care gets a lot of lip service in our self-help world, and in the domains of parenting, coaching and teaching, but self-care is not just about you – it’s about the people you love and serve. When you exhaust yourself serving them, or tie your self-worth to serving in a “perfect” and unsustainable way, you send a message, “You can’t do this alone. You need me.” It destroys the very value you are striving to deliver.
This leads to tangled relationships and to everybody feeling like a failure.
Self-care in service means trusting the person you serve to learn, in their own time, in their own way. And it means trusting that what you have given is enough.
Question for You: In what teaching relationship is it time for you to practice self-care and step back? What would that look like – today?
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In the end we all try to do our best. Hopefully part of your best is showing compassion to self as well as others.... on all levels.
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